Getting Comfortable - How To Use Your Body Language To Make Other Singles Feel Comfortable

Body language is perhaps the most powerful signals you will ever receive and send. Your voice may say one thing, but if your body is saying another, it is your body that will be heard. The good news is that you can use body language to your advantage and manipulate the feelings and actions of others to come more into line with how you are feeling.

If you are on a date, and you are interested, it is no secret that by moving closer, you are sending a message. You’ve seen it before when someone does it to you. Sometimes they do it consciously, sometimes not. What you need to do is make sure you use body language on a conscious level and be aware of each and every motion you make.

To make a date feel at ease and become more comfortable with you, there are several motions you can make, and they all start with your hands. Women who play with their hair, unknowingly, are sending sensual messages of attraction to their partner. A man who luxuriously plays with his glass or bottle is doing the same thing. These playful hand motions are signals.

By keeping your hands out in sight of your date (rather than sitting with arms crossed or with your hands in your pockets), you are telling your date that you are comfortable. However, a date who puts their hands in front of their face, their mouth, or keeps a drink up to their face is actually creating personal space – so back off.

Your body itself sends a language all its own. If you are slouched in a chair, you may be comfortable, but you are sending a signal that says you aren’t really interested. A man or woman who leans into their dates to listen is showing interest and caring. This is a good sign, indeed.

The best way to make a date feel comfortable, however, is to feel comfortable yourself. And if you don’t feel comfortable – for instance, if you are nervous – tell them so. By both of you admitting you are nervous, perhaps you can just laugh about it and move on.