Why Eye Contact Is So Powerful - And How To Do It Without Feeling Uncomfortable

Remember when you were a child and your mother caught you lying? Remember how you couldn’t look her in the eye? She knew, even then, that averting eye contact is a sure fire way to spot a liar.

Excessive eye contact, on the other hand is equally disturbing. Wild animals will challenge each other simply with eye contact. People do that, too. A person who stares at you is challenging you, maybe not to a death match, but challenging you to avert your gaze first – so they win.

Eye contact is extremely powerful and you need to know how to use it properly in order to attract mates, and not scare people away. Most importantly, you need to be able to look at someone in the eyes without feeling uncomfortable.

When consciously making eye contact, think about why you are doing it? Are you doing it so that the other person knows you are sincere? Do you want them to feel you are confident? Do you want them to know that you are interested in them? If so, then you are using it in the right way and you shouldn’t feel uncomfortable at all. Eye contact, if used for positive purposes, is always good.

There are some cultures that think eye contact is rude. The Japanese are often told to look below the eyes, to avoid eye contact. Muslims have very specific rules regarding eye contact which is strictly adhered to, even among many Muslims in this country.

But for most people eye contact is viewed as a positive sign of personal involvement and creation of a bond. By looking your date in the eye while speaking or listening, they are getting the message that you are genuine, can be trusted, and are interested in them. With this knowledge alone, you should never feel uncomfortable.