Why You Shouldn’t Try Too Hard When Dating

If you’re going out on a date with someone you really like it can be tempting to get so excited you really go overboard on the date and end up trying too hard.

I’m not for a moment suggesting that you should try - dress up nicely, make conversation, flatter them etc. - after all you’re unlikely to get another date if you make *no* effort. But what I’m talking about is knowing when to stop.

Some people on a date will simply try too hard to impress and the date can then end up forced and uncomfortable as you put on a laugh even if they’re jokes aren’t funny, order whatever food they order to try and impress them and generally act like someone totally different to who you are.

When you try too hard, it’s almost too easy to make an idiot of yourself quite simply because you’re not your usual self.

Remember that the perfect date is one where the person you go out with sees (and likes) the real you. No lies, no making things up. If you are going to have a serious long-term relationship then you need to start off on the right foot.

If you act yourself and they don’t like you then consider this a *good* thing. At least you found out bright and early that they’re not suited to you. Too many people spend their lives feeling uncomfortable and unfulfilled because they spend years pretending to be something they’re not. Promise yourself you won’t fall into that same trap.